Sunday, February 05, 2006
i sit here and reminisce.. and i realised how much i've grown up. remember the days when you were dating back in secondary school, everything seemed like a fairytale. You can meet almost EVERYDAY, without complain... But as you grow up, your responsibilities start to increase but your time seem to decrease. Just as the other party starts to get busier, you start to feel neglected. You feel like you're all alone... And that your partner isn't spending enough time with you.
I bet many of you are guilty of this. But why is this so? Generally, I feel it's the inability for one's partner to accept this change. Adaptability to this change is difficult because some people are just not used to it. Your partner who used to be around almost every other minute is suddenly missing and you "rarely" get to see him/her. What i mean by "rarely" is the decreased amount of time spent together. Does not necessarily mean once in a month or once in a year. If you get the drift. On the other hand, i guess one party matures faster than the other. His/her goals and priorities in life has shifted. Like for men, as they grow up and realise their dreams, they tend to put career first. Us, girls, start to feel neglected and lonely and we start to bug them and argue with them a lot more for the decreased amount of time spent together. Is this Right? Have you thought of the actual reason to why he's so busy?
Well, I'm starting to understand because i sort of face this problem myself. Initially, i used to think my partner didn't give me enough attention while he's at work and busy with other stuff. I start thinking too much and my thoughts just run WILD. I draw possible conclusions which were never near reality. (it never happened) And right now, the tables have turned. I start to get busier and stuff. And because of this change, my partner now cannot accept this change. How am i to address the matter? I guess I've finally realised what he went through before.
To all those of you who may be experiencing the same problem, TALK to your partner. One thing i learn is that communication and understanding is important... Coupled with TRUST. And if that still doesn't work. Try to fork out a bit more time to spend with your partner and gain his/her trust. If the problem still persists, and if it's comfortable with you, you might want to readjust your schedule to accomodate him/her. If that still isn't possible, and if your partner makes you feel very guilty, then it's about time to reconsider the relationship. Because your partner is supposed to be one who supports you regardless of what you do. If he/she makes you feel guilty, then he/she's just adding sorrow to your life. He/she should actually be bringing you happiness and cheering you up whenever you are down. If he/she adds on to your problems, then it'll just make you more miserable. Consider well though. NEVER live in REGRETS.
enough for now. i've gotta get going. will blog again. time to go to mindchamps. x) the place i receive my positive energy. simply love that place. to all those who've never heard of mindchamps, it's a study centre sort of... teaches you learning techniques and life skills.. if you're interested, tag my board or contact me. i'll tell you more about it.
as for now. adios. have fun! don't lose your adolescence to the prevailing stress of this society. ;) *winks.
